Giving Yourself This Gift Will Help You Be Successful


You set a goal for yourself, perhaps you set multiple goals, because that's what we overachievers do. Then life happens. You start juggling five million different things. You burn the candle at both ends. The bags under your eyes are getting a little darker, your pants stopped fitting a while ago and you're pretty sure you are 90% caffeine at this point. You are exhausted. Your work is suffering. And so is your life. Burnout doesn't look good on anyone. But there is something you can do about it: Treat yo'self.

This may sound a little counterintuitive, but you don't need to kill yourself to be happy - or successful. Treat yourself as you want others to see you and treat you. If you run yourself ragged, others will think it's okay for them to do the same. Show yourself a little TLC. Regain your sense of self-worth.

Think about it in terms of the law of diminishing returns. You push yourself past the point of what is good or healthy for you. You are working so many hours and yet the output is less than your best. You'e over-invested your time and energy to the detriment of your work, the exact opposite of what you were trying to do. See where I am going with this?

Pull back. Re-prioritize yourself and remember that you, as a person, as an individual, matter. You need to take care of yourself first before you can take of anyone or anything else. 

How can you quickly get back on track? Follow these steps:

  1. Grab a pen and piece of paper
  2. Draw a line down the middle of the paper
  3. In one column, make a list of things you enjoy doing
    1. Write down the last time you participated in that activity
    2. Write down how those activities make you feel
  4. In the other column, make a list of the things you've been doing
    1. Write down how often you do these things
    2. Write down how those activities make you feel
  5. Compare the two lists
    1. Is there any overlap?
    2. How often are you doing the things you enjoy?
  6. Now map out your week
    1. Where can you make room for the things you enjoy?
    2. Are there ways to cut down on some of the other activities? 
    3. What can you delegate? What do you no longer need to do?
  7. After a week, evaluate how you feel
    1. Do you still fee exhausted?
    2. Do you find yourself happier, enjoying life?
    3. What do you notice about the quality of your work?

Give yourself the greatest gift you can. Put yourself first. Once you realize that you matter, you'll start to see a shift. Stop continuing on in a way that leaves you exhausted with no energy or time It's a destructive pattern and what that you should not maintain or even try to sustain. Focus on what makes you happy, bring back more joy and balance into your life. You'll find yourself reinvigorated, renewed and ready to take on any challenge that comes your way.